When Mom Says No

When it comes to dealing with kids, I always feel that there shoud be an element of consistency involved. Meaning, if mom says no, dad should say likewise and when dad says no, mom should concur.

Once, my toddler asked for a packet drink late at night and I said no. He went to his dad with tears streaming down his cheeks, and his dad relented. At that moment, I got really angry and gave my husband a piece of my mind. I rarely give my husband a good scolding but somehow, to know that my authority had been overridden that night just made me truly mad.

Since then, my husband has learnt his lesson and he does not do that anymore. But now, I'm encountering a new problem. That is, whenever my toddler goes to his dad to ask for something that perhaps he shouldn't be getting, his dad would tell him that "Mommy doesn't allow" or "Go and ask mommy first." So, it seems like I'm now this evil parent - the one who always says NO.

Before I blow my top at my husband again for this kind of 'manipulation' on our young kid, does anyone out there has this same problem? Are you always the evil one like I'm or do you get to swap the evil role with your partner to confuse your kids? Or maybe, you always end up playing the good guy part? Hey, I love playing the good guy role too but if both of us are always the good guys, who would discipline this toddler of ours then?