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There is an old saying that goes 'spare the rod and spoil the child'. And Jo-N wanted to know whether I do spare the rod when it comes to disciplining my toddler.
I guess nowadays, times have changed so much compared to 2 decades ago when caning is still an acceptable form of punishment. Today, if you cane your child, you might just end up being accused of being a child abuser.
Whatever it is I don't subscribe to the idea of caning children as a disciplinary measure. Hitting seems like a violent act to me and violence only begets violence. Moreover, I think my toddler is still too young to understand what he can or can't do and the reasons behind it. So, caning does not seem like an effective thing to do to teach him what he should know.
Anyway, I believe patience is a virtue and by being patient with our children whenever they misbehave, we allow room for communication to follow. On the other hand, if we resort to scoldings or beatings at every instant, we shut the door for the child to express his feelings and over time, it will become even harder to get him to listen. That's my view, anyway, but I have to add that I'm not a strict disciplinarian at all when it comes to my own kid. I think I'm spoiling him rotten because it's kind of hard for me to get real angry with a 2 year old.
Anyway, Jen, Tammy, Huckdoll, Mae and Mommy Speak, I don't suppose you cane your kids, right? How do you discipline your children then?
Miche does not spare the rod.
Jo-N wants to be her children's best friend.
Tot's Mom spares the rod and believes in patience when dealing with kids.
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Sunday, November 25, 2007
Forms of Discipline
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Ill do this later in the week :)
Oooh..thanks for tagging me into this, especially at out entrance into the Terrible Twos!
Hmmm.
I guess I need to look at the other posts and see what 'caning' is. I have never hit my kids with a 'thing'.
I also have no interest in being my kids friend. They will only ever have one Mother. That's me. They'll meet plenty of other people in life who will want to be their friend. I think they need me to be the MOM - mean as that sometimes is...
I think the 1,2,3 technique is effective for some acts, but somethings in my family get a spank. One is injuring a sibling on purpose and another is running toward the road. Besides those, spanking is just not needed. I am glad you do not cane. ;)
thank you for stopping by and commenting...and what a compliment! i appreciate it because sometimes i feel like a super villain and not at all, even close to, a super mom! so, thank you!
by the way...i give my 4 year old a time out. i believe in spanking, only if they, for example...run into the street after yelling stop...i'd rather spank and make a statement then him get hit by a car!
have a great night and stop by again...i'll be back over here, for sure!
I'll try to do this tomorrow okay. I hope you had a great weekend!!!
after reading Jo-N's post, i am kinda encourage to try a diff approach...it wont be as easy as flashing the cane though. :P
I so agree with you. I haven't hit or spanked. Yet....
Hi TM--I agree with your thoughts on this. Hitting a child from anger or impatience is not a lesson to teach.
Thank you for stopping by my blog--looking forward to sharing more thoughts (smile).
I was also tagged on this and it should be my next post. Let me know what you think.
I fully agree with Audrey.
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u can spare the rod, but u cannot spare discipline in them. discipline can spare the rod. discipline could be in order form such as thru reading moral stories to them, and most importantly, u are the one who can show them thru actions, believe me ur child would love u even more as they grow older and never lesser. this is the age, 0-6, where u should instill good discipline. for age 6-12, they will have a sense of justice. and age 12-18, a sense of loyalty for their country.
very well written.
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